What IS a Blue Star MOM?

My first time reaching out via social media:

In 2010 while my son was deployed, I ordered my flag and proudly displayed it in my front window.

I was amazed at the number of people that did not have a clue why I had that blue star flag in my window. 

My neighbor, had a flag with 2 blue stars in hers, She knew.

So many questions on FB… “What are you talking about? A Blue what??”

So I answered:


The Service flag, also called the Blue Star Flag, was designed and patented by WWI Army Captain Robert L. Queisser of the 5th Ohio Infantry who had two sons serving on the front line. The flag quickly became the unofficial symbol of a child in service.

President Wilson became part of this history when in 1918 he approved a suggestion made by the Women’s Committee of the Council of National Defenses that mothers who had lost a child serving in the war wear a gold gilt star on the traditional black mourning arm band.

This led to the tradition of covering the blue star with a gold star on the Service flag to indicate that the service member has died.

 Link to the full History



A Military Mom’s Poem

Give me the greatness of heart to see,
The difference between duty and his love for me.

Give me understanding, so that I may know,
When duty calls him, he must go.

Give me a task to do each day,
To fill the time when he’s away.

When he’s in a foreign land,
Keep him safe in your loving hand.

And Lord, when duty is in the field,
Please protect him and be his shield.

And Lord, when deployment is so long,
Please stay with me and keep me strong.

Author unknown

K’s home in 2010

Becoming a Military Parent

On behalf of the Blue Star Mother’s of America, it is with great honor that we welcome you into the journey of being a military parent!

We are there with you as you cross the bridge to becoming a Blue Star Mother and Father to support you in any way we can.

We are a support group, whose members consist of Mothers, Fathers, Spouses, Siblings, Grandparents, Extended Family and Friends of someone who has or has had a loved one in the military. We support each other, our military and veterans.

Since WWI mothers have hung “Blue Star Flags” in their windows while their children served in the armed forces especially during conflicts or wars.

To be a Blue Mother or Father is an Honor only your child can give to you. The Blue Star stands for hope and pride.

Becoming a military parent continues the life long journey … of hope and pride. As when your child was born, you were filled with that hope and pride as well as excitement, anxiety, fear and great joy. As you step into the walk of being a military parent that journey continues and once again life changes. You find yourself noticing even more the patriotic symbols all around you, flying your United States flag with a different kind of pride. Thus “Supporting Our Troops” in a way you have probably never before.

Life changes, as your child will hold him or herself to a higher standard, you too will find it changes your life. Forever supporting your child in a different way with even more hope and pride for serving our country to keep our land free.

May you and your child be blessed while this journey of life unfolds!
Remember: “To be a Blue Star Mother or Father is an Honor only your child can give to you!”

Written by: Jean T. Duane
National 2nd Vice President ~ 2007



Link to resources , suggested readings The Blue Star Mothers of NH our Mission



a video which touched my heart ❤



 We wish to remember and extend our deepest sympathies

to all Gold Star Families.

May we always remember those who gave all for our country.

The Final Roll Call

We thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new.

We thought about you yesterday
And days before that too.

We think of you in silence
We often speak your name.

Now all we have are memories
And your picture in a frame.

Your memory is our keepsake
With which we’ll never part

God has you in His keeping
We have you in our Heart.

~Author Unknown  

Kind Regards and All my loving thoughts  – K



31 thoughts on “What IS a Blue Star MOM?

  1. I, too, am a blue star mother and really get tired of explaining to anyone that comes to the door just what my flag is for. It is a national disgrace that people are so uninformed about the very people that keep them safe at home. Bless your child, and bless you and may everyone come home safely!

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  2. Wow what a post .. i never really ever thought of it. To be mum of a son in the forces it just as brave as the one in the forces.

    I sit /stand in awe… really
    I cant believe that i never thought of how it might be.

    Hugs to you and your family

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    1. Like Hank sings it’s a family tradition… but as a mom, I don’t believe you realize the impact on your life until you actually live it.

      Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment. ❤

      I am glad you had a chance to learn something, there are so many families out there standing behind their soldier.

      Kind Regards and feeling beyond grateful – K

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  3. Lovely post, K. For too long a season I hung three blue star flags in my front windows, for my two sons and daughter-in-love. I also tied big yellow ribbons all over my property. Today I’m proud to say two retired from the military after several re-enlistments and one, the one we almost lost in Iraq (but returned to the middle east on several tours “to find the other half of the lost foot”) just celebrated 25 years of service with the U.S. Army.

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    1. Bless you Roo. Thank you for sharing you story!

      Yes, mine came back. Things will never be quite the same. But he is home, alive and living a normal life.
      I just wish I saw him more than twice a year. lol

      Big warm Blue star mom hugs headed your way!

      Congratulations to 25 years!! Wowser!!

      Kind Regards and feeling grateful for all that we have – K


  4. I really appreciate your post. I have a son who is serving in the Army. He was trained in the infantry and spent just 3 months in Iraq before we pulled everyone out. I guess that made me a blue star father for three months. He is currently serving as a recruiter stateside.

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  5. I am not an American but would like to say what a moving tribute your Post and the Video is to all your Countrymen and Women who go to Foreign Lands to Serve their Country and Protect the People. I have learned an awful lot, I wish that here in my Country, the UK, there was as much respect for our Men and Women who go to Protect the Country and its People. God Bless all those that Serve and the Families who wait in anguish for their return.

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