Shopping Trip

Run to the store

After work.

Pick up a few

From my mini list.

Overstuff my

Carry basket.

Checkout line

Ringing out.

Look behind,

There’s quite a line!

Seems I arrived

At the perfect time!

Feeling successful,

And compassionate.

Smiling,

Make some room

For the gal’s heavy things

Behind me.

Bagged up

Payment made

Off I start to go.

An Ol’ neighbor

Shouts a sweet hello.

I answer back

With a “How are you?”

Quick exchange.

Life

And a grocery store

In a small town.

Not one person knew

I conquered

A panic attack

To be there.

Kind Regards

and # winning – K

Awkward

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Through the pollen

Attempting to peer

Through Yellow Haze.

Eyes itching.

Chest heaving

Nostrils dripping

Tissues swiping

Shoes weighing

Body off balance

Sluggish thinking…

THEN:

Skies darken

Spring drizzles

Water-drops drenching

Tree branches dancing

Winds swirling

Quietly, dark clouds

Rolling onward…

Birds singing

Blue skies peeking

Shoulders lifting

Ahhhh, cleansing breaths

Clippity Clopping

Skipping flip flops!

HELLO! Clarity!

A small price

We’re paying.

Nature’s miracles

In Northern New England.

Kind Regards

and enjoying May – K

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May 2018

Place in the World

Hello?

Can you see me?

You, sitting on the edge

Of my couch

Head tilted to your phone.

Can you hear me?

You sitting there

Physical body present,

Mindset unknown.

Can you talk to me?

You sitting there,

Quietly disengaged.

My inquiries,

Go unanswered.

Why are you here?

You sitting there,

Silent.

Me?

I feel trapped,

Sad,

Alone.

Kind Regards

and present – K

Infect

Individuality

Inside myself

I know my weakness’s

I know my strengths.

What triggers my tears,

What triggers my fears.

I have a grasp on

What brings me joy.

All that

Cannot define,

Me as a person.

Whether I’m bad

Or if I am good.

Not one thing

Above, can

Decrease my passion,

Deep within.

I WILL tell you,

I’m definitely NOT an

Opera Singer.

But with so many

Other things

I CAN DO!

My inner self

Knows I’m a winner.

Kind Regards and reminding you to concentrate on the positive – K

Drowning in Plain Sight

Drowning in plain sight.

I read an article recently where a woman used this phrase to express how she felt during her battle with depression.

Drowning in plain sight.

Wow, I thought to myself. What a powerful statement. What an accurate statement.

Walking into work the other morning I was suffocated by my own anxiety. My chest was tight. My breath was quick. My mind… racing. My throat… restricted.

There it was… my anxiety. Drowning me… in plain sight.

I walk past my coworkers on the way to my desk. “Good Morning!” I say as I toss a “genuine” smile in their direction. I do my best not to look anyone directly in the eye and walk hurriedly as though I’m late to be somewhere. No one thinks anything of it. They think everything is fine. (This is a skill I have perfected over the years.)

Little did they know… I’m drowning…

As I sit down at my desk the restriction around my neck tightens. I’m trying to breathe… “just keep breathing” I tell myself. Find something to occupy your mind…

Drowning in plain sight.

Then I start to think to myself. Where is the life saver, the raft, the arm floaties?

In these moments there is a choice. I can choose to let this feeling control me or I can learn to control the emotion. How does one stop treading water and learn to swim during these times? (Or at least do the doggy paddle!)

Fast forward on this day… I survived! I stayed the entire work day. I didn’t go home. I didn’t implode, or explode and no one around me ever knew what happened.

I chose to find a floatation device and hang on.

(To be clear, it was not easy and I was exhausted. But I moved forward. Slowly, but surely, I came out victorious!)

So, what did I do?

I reached into my “tool kit” and found the flotation device I had stored there just for this occasion. (Like these occasions are actually planned! HA!)

First thing I realized was that I didn’t have to do this alone. I sent a text to my counselor to let her know I was drowning and was in need of extra ideas.

Secondly, I talked through what was going on with my best friend. (I find at times if you speak the emotions out loud it will release their power! Writing the emotions out has the same effect!)

Next, I snuck off to the handicap stall in the bathroom and cried. That’s right, just let myself feel the wave! I listened to my mind and my body, I found appreciation for why it was sending me these warning signs. (I have learned that these moments exist to warn us of something. Our bodies have a message for us. Sometimes I simply ask myself… What do you want me to know? You’ll be surprised what you may learn. I always take a moment to say thank you. I appreciate the warning, as the warning is there as a means of protection!)

At the suggestion of my counselor, I talked myself through an exercise: As you breathe identify 5 things you see; 4 things you hear; 3 things you smell; 2 things you taste; 1 positive thing you feel.. (This forced my anxious thoughts to slow down. My breath became calm and more grounded.)

Then finally, I wrote down gratitudes. I wrote down positive affirmations. I wrote down statements about myself that are true. (Did you know your brain cannot feel two emotions at one time? Focusing on what you love, believe, and that which makes you happy forces your brain to shift in that direction.) This exercise pulled the plug on the pool. The Tide turned. I suddenly felt myself find clarity and the anxiety lifted.

There I was. Exhausted… but standing with my head above water. I survived.

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My hope is that by sharing this story it will help you find strength and hope. Maybe one of the tools shared here will be something you’ve been looking to add to your emergency kit. Every day is a new day, another opportunity to witness yourself come out victorious. Every step is a step forward. Tiny victories are still victories!

Much love, Super Snail 🐌

Tide

Empath? Huh? What?

Wow, you’re a What?

You feel that way, why?

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Today I’m so

Tired, and drained!

Blah! ,Snore,!

Happy day, happy people!

Weeeee I’m dancing πŸ’ƒ!

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Emotional UP!

Emotional DOWN.

Stop the roller coaster I wanna get off! 😝😜

Sounds bipolar doesn’t it!

I’m nuts!

Ahem, SURPRISE!

No! You are NOT nuts!

Goofy at times, giggles, but

Intelligent, hardworking, kind…. etc etc but definitely

NOT nuts!

Well I feel that way!

Check this out!

Trust me!

Click the link!

The Science Behind Empaths

Forget Me Knots!

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Kind Regards and believing in you, always – K

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Article From Psychology Today.

Sunday Share 5.6.18

This little blog of mine

I’m going to let it shine.

I could not have done it

Without YOU!

My readers, followers

Mirror

Encouraging cheerleaders

Big “G, Little “O”!

Swish go the pom poms

As you joyfully shout

By way of your comments;

“Go! K at the Black Wall

Go! Go!Go!”

A little over 2 years!

Over 25k views

Over 860 followers

And the numbers

Keep on growing!

To BGage and I

You are

Not numbers nor Stats!

But friends,

Mentors, buddies,

fellow photographers,

artists, talented writers,

teammates fighting the

fight against “22”…

– FAMILY.

❀️

Your stories, prose, shares

Along with diverse

Multi- talented personalities,

Make our world brighter,

Together we laugh,

Cry, encourage, learn,

teach, share success,

oopsies πŸ¦‹, listen

And get a precious glimpse

Of hopes, dreams, lifestyles

And so much more!

If I can touch one life

Change your hopelessness

Into Hope!

Help you take a first step.

Hold your hand.

Make you see

What an amazing

Person you are.

Show you

Life is worth living.

Than I have succeeded.

In turn, you have

Helped me believe

And to see

Together,

We are love.

We are winners.

We are the world.

The motivation quote that popped up for me today-

Being kind to you is really being kind to me, for we are but individual parts of the same whole. – Unknown

Kind Regards and darn glad you’re here -K

❀️

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Mentor

Attitude

Your attitude

Ain’t nothing new,

I perfected it

Long before you,

Were even born.

Rather funny,

That I,

Once, just like you,

Thought I knew

Everything too!

Surprise!

I didn’t.

In time, my dear,

I have to say,

There definitely,

Will come a day.

The one you-

Realize,

The words,

I speak are true.

In life

There are

Unrealized moments

That will mold you.

People that will hold you.

Other’s that,

Will set you free.

That’s just the way

It’s gonna be.

No one knows,

What the years will bring.

My hope,

You take time

To observe and absorb

All of it in,

And do your very best.

May you keep

Your open heart,

Give hugs to those in need,

Be kind,

And plant some

Hope, silliness,

Along with

Happiness seeds,

Wherever your

Path may lead you.

One last wish,

Is mine, selfishly.

At some point,

That path your on,

Brings you back

Towards me.

Moms hearts

Have a need

For their

Children’s endless

Joy and possibilities

And the chance

To experience

all the

Glorious gifts

Our universe

Has to offer.

As I recall

Our story,

Isn’t new at all.

Seems my mom,

Did regale one

Similar .

I didn’t believe her, either.

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Xxooxxoo

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Kind Regards – K

Photography from K of TheBlackWallBlog memories.

Mentor

Always You

In the beginning,

You were closer

Than anyone could ever be.

Little flutters, kicks and

Finally, I held you.

Then every night, up at 3.

To feed, rock and nurture.

My love surrounded us

To keep you safe and warm.

Back to work,

I had to go,

Throughout my day

Constantly, worrying

Wondering.

What were you

Doing, thinking,

Eating?

Often I would cry.

Until I rushed to pick you up,

My eves were spent

Holding, hugging, rocking

Singing you a lullaby,

Until you finally slept.

Lovingly I peered

Upon my sleeping babe.

And time continued on.

Seasons passed.

🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

Days flew by

We tracked your height

With an old yard stick

A mark upon the door trim wood.

We were close

Life wasn’t perfect

But felt fabulous.

And Oh so good!

Soon you were off to school.

Everyday, I wondered

What you were

Doing, thinking.

As the sun went down

In our world.

After homework was done.

We sat around the

Kitchen table,

You would share your stories.

We’d laugh and giggle.

Often,

We’d rush to your

Baseball or basketball

Practice or a game.

As my day would

come to a close,

I would wonder

What was I doing

Right or wrong?

Was I teaching you enough?

Giving you life’s resources

To be

Accomplished in your life?

Often I searched for answers,

As I laid there

Trying to sleep.

And time went on.

Seasons passed.

Now,

As the sun gently rests

At the end of my day.

Random texts arrive.

Phone calls,

I’m blessed with

Pictures in the mail.

You share

what you are

Doing and thinking.

I am proud of what

You are accomplishing,

In your daily life.

When I go to bed at night.

I smile and am

Ever so thankful.

Knowing it’s time

And patience

That has kept us growing closer.

Though distance keeps us apart.

As the years go by

And the seasons pass.

As it has always been

Since your arrival.

No matter how old you are

Or where your life

Might take you,

In my heart

The truest love.

Will always belong

To you.❀️

Kind Regards and thinking about my children -K

❀️

Photography compliments and copyrighted by BGage & K of TheBlackWallBlog.

Authentic

Each Morning I Awake

Saturday morning

I awaken,

Start the coffee,

Let the dogs out,

Let the dogs in,

It’s another day.

I pour my first cup,

Steaming roasted gold

Into my favorite

Coffee mug,

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Savoringly sipping,

Still groggy,

Mind blurry,

In my

Early morning daze.

Opening up my notebook

I jot today’s date,

Morning’s mind fog

Laggardly dissipates.

“Eighty percent of success is showing up.” -Woody Allen

Kind Regards and wishing you a fabulous Saturday -K

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Genie

One step back

Fret! Fret! Fret!

Imagined the worst!

Worried!

Uptight!

Paced!

Couldn’t eat!

Couldn’t sleep!

Shoulders met my earlobes!

Doubt!

Felt Insecure!

Overly sensitive!

All because

I misread

The situation!

Why?

An old habit!

I thought I’d overcome.

I’m a banana head!

Now?

Chalk it up!

Let it go!

Laugh it off!

Look in the mirror!

Make a silly face!

Give myself the raspberry!

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Often I seem to mirror

New England weather,

Yesterday

windows open

After work

I raked!

Some lawn had appeared!

Today,

It snowed!

Mother Nature dear

What ARE you up to?

Let it go!

Laugh it off!

Go look in the mirror,

Make a funny face!

Give yourself a raspberry!

Stop being a banana head!

Ha!

****

Remember:

****

#Winning!

Kind Regards and chuckling -K

Photography compliments and copyrighted by BGage and K at TheBlackWallBlog.

Thwart

Letter from a Super Snail

I am pleased to share a first and hopefully only the beginning of writing and sharing from a special guest that prefers to remain anonymous.

We are glad you joined us. ❀️

Each day is a new day,

a fresh start,

a clean slate.

Outsiders,

see courage, strength,

and determination take on the day.

Inside

the feelings of fear, exhaustion,

and timidness drive one foot in front of the other.

However, one foot is in front of the other.

Ever moving forward.

Progressing.

Hitting snooze seven times

and then getting up.

But she gets up.

On the outside she appears to have it all.

On the inside,

all of her is giving,

every ounce of effort

to get through the day.

Perception is your reality.

Moving forward is always moving forward.

They may see a lioness

and she may feel a snail.

Each serve their purpose

and still she is making progress.

Today, she is thankful for the tiny movements she made forward.

These are her victories.

They can think whatever the hell they want.

In the end.

It’s all the same anyway.

She is a champion!

❀️❀️

Great job!

🌹🌹

#winning

Kind Regards and proud of you, Snail -K

πŸ’–

Rush

Good Job!

Positive affirmations!

Do we hand out enough?

Do we receive enough?

From others?

From ourselves?

Way to go!

Great job!

Good for you!

Excellent!

A++++

It’s a work in progress for some of us.

I love to give out pat on the backs to others.

Cheer them on!

Woot! Woot!

That was easy.

I had to “learn” to give them to myself!

So today, if you haven’t-

Learn to hand out compliments!

Learn positive self talk!

You are?

Fabulous!

🌷

Darn that feels good!

Great!

Wonderful!

There is a lil’ journaling

I often do with my morning

Thoughts.

Okay, K

How many positive words can you scribble in the next 30 seconds…

GO!

😁

Write 10 positive words.

GO!

Going to try it?

Good for you!

πŸ˜‰

#winning!

Kind Regards and knowing you are fantastic! -K