A must reblog!

https://perfectlyimperctblog.wordpress.com/2018/11/25/the-truth-of-a-narcissist/

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Interesting!

Nice to know.

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Shameful Behavior

I am witness

Of what you have done

To her.

Inflicting her heart

With the agonizing pain

Of ten-thousand deaths

With your manipulative

Ways.

Making her life decisions

Without consultation,

Imprisoning her in a world

Of self doubt.

Tempting her with

glimpses and promises

of your love and warmth.

Then yanking them away

Knocking her off her feet.

Time and again.

Never allowing

The dust of comfort

And peace to settle.

You are an idiot

Undeserving of her

Unselfish gifts of

Heart, warmth, caring

And love.

It’s simple.

Passive aggressive

Behavior is your specialty.

A person’s life decisions

Belong to them.

Freedom of choice

Through communication

And collaboration with

Knowledge of all the facts.

The only existing copyright

Of creating circumstances

For blind lifestyle choices

Belong to God and the

universe.

To think all her pain

Was avoidable,

If only you were who

You portrayed yourself

To be.

Unfortunately, the scars

Of your making

Will remain forevermore.

My only hope is

That I have saved her

In time.

As for you,

I know she wishes you

The best

And will always be dumb

Enough to hold a tiny spark

Of hope.

For she is a beautiful

believer in the power

Of good in everyone.

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“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”-

-Oprah Winfrey

The one who is meant for you encourages you to be your best, but still loves and accepts you at your worst.” – Unknown

Kind Regards as I help a friend – K

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Changes 10.29.18

Exciting and scary all at the same time.

My house is being shown this coming weekend.

I’m sorting and boxing up 28 years of my NH life. Getting ready for a change.

Actually, it goes further back if you count the items and memories saved from the sale of my childhood home in early 2000.

Mixed emotions.

Sadness, thankfulness and mindfully staying open to new adventures.

If everything falls into place, a month from now, I shall be living near my youngest granddaughter!

At only 4 1/2, what a delight it will be to be a regular part of her life, instead of flying in every 6 months and FaceTime chats and dinners!

Bittersweet, selfishly wanting both things at once. My home and the freedom to travel to see her every week.

I’ll will keep you posted!

Kind Regards – K

#winning

Great Things are Happening! 10.19.18

Please be patient with me.

I am running a bit behind this week.

There are major “positive” changes happening in my life.

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Often, when times seem bleak and you are feeling lost. Thinking and fretting while wondering what the hell you are going to do? Because things are NOT working….

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The universe opens a door to an opportunity. An opportunity which causes a ripple and suddenly everything is falling into place. Your heart, soul and your mind know, THIS IS THE PATH, you must follow!

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I am, selling my house after 22 years. (Yikes) YES! I have an offer! WOW!

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Packing and preparing to move from NH to NC!

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I will be closer to my littlest granddaughter!

Finally, I will be able to watch her grow!

Lots of glorious G’ma hugs in my future! โค๏ธโ˜€๏ธโค๏ธ

GREAT STUFF!

“The warmth of the rays of glorious sunshine surround me!” ๐ŸŒž

#winning

Kind Regards and thinking of all of you- K

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Can You Hear Me? 9.20.18

Last week was

National Suicide Prevention Week.

So many people

On numerous social sites,

Posted their support,

The hot lines.

Did you absorb

What it’s truly about?

Did you actually read

And understand the signs?

***

Can you hear me

Begging for help

By my silence?

Did you notice

I’m keeping to myself

These days?

Have you seen a dullness

That replaced a sparkle

In my eyes?

Have you wondered

About my flash anger

When there’s nothing

For me to be mad about?

Can you tell

By my hollowed cheeks

And clothing grown too big,

That I’ve lost my appetite?

Can you hear the silence,

Since I stopped answering

my phone?

Have you noticed

Dirty coffee mugs

In my sink,

Piled higher each day?

Do you see

The unopened bills

Stacked higher, on

The kitchen table?

You say I’m so strong.

Can work thru anything.

Yes, once I was!

I’ve searched

For my strength,

It’s disappeared.

Can you hear me?

The dogs can.

No worries,

They’ll alert the neighbors

Once I’m gone.

Will you look back,

And hear me then?

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Make sure you know

What to look for,

take notice of your

Friends and family.

If their is an

Unexplained behavioral

Change.

Don’t just chalk it up,

To your knowledge

There has been

” a little” extra stress

In their life.

In a calm manner,

Ask questions.

Remember, just because

They’ve weathered tough

times before, doesn’t mean

this time it’s the same.

Everything maybe okay!

They may just be stumbling

Right now.

But if you don’t ask

The questions

How will you know

For sure?

Kind Regards and hugs – K

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Momโ€™s America Has Forgotten

Happy Thursday!

Yes, today is K’s Blog recommendation day, I’m working on them. Stay tuned!

BUT FIRST!

In the last year, something I FEARED was true.

Has PROVED to be true!

THE FORGOTTEN MOMS.

That’s right.

WHO are they?

The majority seem to be woman in their 50s.

Educated, smart, witty and funny.

They have raised their children and are now experiencing empty nest syndrome.

In their 20s, 30s and 40s, they kicked ass and beat down the doors so that their daughters could have the same pay as their male co-workers.

Whether it be due to illness, businesses closing or?

They are struggling.

Suddenly, due to their age, they aren’t quick to be employable anymore. (Yup that’s illegal) but still true!

Because, they don’t have children at home nor have a drinking or drug problem…

They are not eligible for most state or federal programs

They can get, possibly, assistance (approximately 10%), in fuel and electric.

I know there ARE some financial programs to help with medical. ONE plus !

Their homes are ALMOST paid for, and they may drive a nice car.

OOPS! sorry, that’s too much value for any type of assistance!

They can get some groceries at the local food bank. TWO in the plus column!

They are too YOUNG, to touch their retirements without a large decrease in the monthly payment plus will experience a 10- 20% tax hit for withdrawing before retirement age.

They have most likely taken care of and buried both parents.

Grandparents are gone.

Their children don’t want them in their home because they still have the “family” pets! Or they just don’t care! (Sad, but true!)

These loving mom’s have helped their children, when they could.

And suddenly,

THEY ARE ALONE!

What’s the answer?

1) Take a 15 dollar an hour cut in pay to work and still not be able to cover their bills?

2) Become alcoholics and drug addicts so they are more likely to be eligible for state federal help?

That’s if they don’t end up living on the street first!

These smart savvy women are selling everything they can.

Researching the internet for passive incomes and praying!

Some are opening their homes and renting rooms.

Hoping they don’t get screwed over by a tenant that doesn’t pay or destroys half their house!

( That last one comes from personal experience! I’m still attempting to fix the damage on a zero budget so I can rent again!)

THEY/WE are fighters!

THEY/WE have HEART!

So America, I ask YOU!

What ARE YOU GOING to do about it?

The CLOCK IS TICKING!

Kind Regards

And kicking & screaming -K

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Pic and quote compliments of Text2Pic app.

All Natural & Free Anxiety reversal trick

My all time Favorite-

**Feeling anxious?

Hold you index finger about belly button level.

Close you eyes.

Slowly rotate your finger in a circle clockwise.

Feel the circle you are creating and your mind panic/ anxiety connect.

If you pick up the speed of your index finger clockwise motion, does your panic/anxiety increase?

YES?

Then slowly start rotating your index finger counter clockwise. (The opposite direction, silly), Your anxiousness should start to slow, then stop.

Take some deep breaths.

Keep practicing this!

Eventually, you can be in a room full of people and barely move your finger, so no one even notices if you need to use it!

Now you have a “carry it with you”, anxiety buster!

Did you try it?

Did it work?

Please, let me know!!

Kind Regards and

de-stressing- K

I’m not a doctor nor psychiatrist, this is one of the tricks I read about a couple of years ago. It may not work for everyone. But I hope it works for you! ๐Ÿ˜˜

**Technique from-

the book โ€œThe Anti-anxiety Toolkitโ€

Rapid Techniques to Rewire the Brain

Author- Melissa Tiers

Joined a Ceeโ€™s Photography Challenge – we were way overdue!

Ceeโ€™s Which Way Photo Challenge – August 24, 2018

You really should try one or two!

We always enjoy ourselves!

I dug way back in the archives to locate some signs from my Boston harbor sailing days.

Well some of the photography wasn’t top notch.

But the memories are.

Thankful for Cee’s “Every Which Way”Photo Challenge!

You should check one out!

Kind Regards – K & B

Shadows

Racing circles

In my brain

Leaves my body

Feeling lifeless

Worthlessly numb.

Smiling

At the appropriate

Moment.

Cheery hello

When spoken to.

I’m tired.

So damn tired,

Though sleep eludes

My fired up brain.

Taking my precious

Canine children

Outside,

Sun is shining

There’s my shadow

Dark upon the grass.

A perfect portrayal

Of me.

Kind Regards – K

Photography compliments & copyrighted by BGage 8.2018

Jobs Gone But Iโ€™m Not!

It’s been an excruciating

6 plus months.

I hung in there

But when you start

To get physically ill,

You have to make

A decision!

Can’t stand watching

Others being bullied

Nor do I have the patience

To be needlessly

Jerked right then left.

Forced to be constantly

on guard.

Management through

Fear and belittling

In place of team building.

It’s a sad, pointless

Terribly vicious circle.

I’ve watched over

Half the place jump ship.

I held on, smiled.

Head down, staying focused

Diligently working.

Then…

Well it doesn’t matter now.

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I have a passion!

A deep passion

To help others!

That feeling

washes over me,

As though I’m

Enjoying

A refreshing swim in the

Gentle heat of a

Warm sea of sunlit rays.

Renewing and exhilarating!

2010 changed me.

My bull in the china shop

Mentality ceased to exist.

My preference is

Peaceful harmony.

Of course, I don’t

Live in fantasy- land!

Life has ups, downs,

Lefts, rights, diagonals,

flips and flops!

All can be weathered.

It’s called living!

Things

We must remember,

When “it” hits the fan?

Get tos, gratitude

Taking care of self.

Mindfulness of

Our universal gifts.

Sounds of Nature,

Beautiful deep blue skies,

Gloriously bright

Sunshine above,

And ourself, we must

Show lots of love.

Nutritious food

We can’t ignore.

Stay extra active,

Take long runs or walks.

Make lists of all

Our strengths,

Plans to hang out

With an Ol’ friend.

Concentrate upon

The present moment,

Meditate, feel that light

Grow within.

An opportunity,

To start afresh and new,

A beginning

Not an end.

Clean your space

Take extra care.

Weren’t you always

Too busy?

An awesome time

To hoe, sell or throw.

Two awesome part time

Jobs can equal

That terrible one

For the interim.

Journal, research

Take breaks!

Inhale, fresh country air!

Relax

Those shoulders!

It’s a

A mini stay-cation!

Kind Regards and

Counting my pennies &

Remembering who I am- K

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Photography of post copyrighted & compliments of K of TheBlackWallBlog 7.2018.

Did You Really Know Me?

When you were sick

With cancer

And going through

Treatments

I was beyond scared.

To your face

I smiled.

We celebrated

When radiation

And chemo

Were done.

A year passed

We celebrated!!

Still cancer free!

But there was a distance,

Quietly, I felt it form.

It was then

YOU decided,

As you often did,

Though usually

You just disappeared

Without a warning.

For days, for weeks

To do your thing.

Sometimes you’d

Climb in a bottle.

Now you’re sober

Over a year.

Sometimes you were

Depressed.

And needed time

To work it through,

Yourself.

This time it was different.

You told me

With your type of cancer

The odds were

Within ten years

You’d be gone.

So you wanted

To do your own thing.

I laughed…

Because I couldn’t

Recall a time

When you weren’t

Doing your own thing.

When YOU wanted.

And now your gone.

It’s rather like

You’ve passed on.

Sadly, madly,

Because of experience

I know the difference.

I can’t find comfort

In looking up

And talking to you.

Knowing

My best friend,

Who I shared hopes

And dreams,

Silliness and

Plaza ice creams,

Is out there.

I don’t think

You realize

It’s not that

I don’t understand

Nor might not want

The same, myself.

It’s all these years

Not once.

Not Even ONCE!

Did you ever

Take the time

To listen.

I asked for one thing.

Just ONE thing.

Not money,

Not the errands

Not the dinners

You cooked

So wonderfully.

I asked for your

Arms around me,

When I fell asleep

At night.

That’s ALL I ever wanted.

You freely offered

Everything you

“Thought” I needed.

I AM extremely grateful.

So many women

Want so much.

Materialistic things,

New cars

A man to pay their bills,

Etc.

Where as I

Being an independent

Spirit myself,

Understand

The need for freedom.

If you look back

You might recall

What were the

Times

Insomnia didn’t

Bother me at all?

Sadly, I wonder

Did you ever

Really know me?

For I knew you.

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

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Kind Regards

And doing the work – K

How We Treat Others

In your journey of life

What is your aspiration?

To assemble or

Dismantle?

Build up or

Knock down?

A selfish person

Will attempt to

Demoralize with

Sharp tongued negativity.

A giving individual

Shows respect

Speaking

With sweet motivation,

Encouragement and

positivity.

So I ask,

What is your aspiration?

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Kind Regards and hugs – K

Sometimes I Act Like an Idiot

Found this quote today-

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Unknown

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A childhood core belief-

From an experience,

Buried deep,

Appears-

When I am hurt.

It triggers-

An old whisper,

“For survival,

You MUST fight back!”

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As a so called adult

In my heart

I know, the truth,

Happiness comes from

Within.

Lashing out,

Accomplishes nothing!

It merely adds

Guilty feelings

To my pain,

Thus, I feel worse!

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Happiness comes from

Within.

My joy grows

When I inspire,

Boost, cheer,

Lend a helping hand

Or listening ear.

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My happiness

Is within my own

Soul.

A soul brimming

With golden sunshine,

Kindness and caring.

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Why do I digress?

Panic?

Tailspin?

Into a realm of ugly

Retorts?

Because I have

Some work to do.

Face the inner negativity,

Define, recognize and

Acknowledge it.

Then I can be free!

Hard work!

I’ll start right now!

Why?

Past ghosts

Have no place

In the person

I’ve become!

Today,

I start the journey

Towards another

lifetime Win!

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Just remember

You CAN

Break the cycle,

True happiness

Comes NOT from others,

Happiness comes from

Within.

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Kind Regards and

believing in me,

believing in you – K

My time!

When acquaintances

Stop you on the street

To ask, How you’re doing?

Breathe, smile

Let it be.

When you show up

To surprise someone

And it’s you

Who gets the surprise!

Breathe, smile

Let it be.

When you realize

It was a possibility

And now it’s not.

Breathe, smile

Let it be.

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No more worrying

About that we.

Breathe, smile,

Feeling my inner

Sunshine Returning.

Remembering who I am!

Reveling in that awesome

Freedom of me!

I’m breathing

I’m smiling

The world is mine

For the taking!

As I turn and walk away,

I breathe,

Hug myself and smile.

Time, to let it be.

Kind Regards

and #winning – K

Photography by KoftheBlackWallBlog. 6.2018

Thatโ€™s Just My Dad…

Moon River

Wider than a mile

I’ll be crossing

You in style some day…..

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Dad, I can’t believe it’s been 21 years since you went off to play jazz sitting on a cloud!

In the quiet moments of a hard day- I can still hear you guiding me in the right direction.

When I close my eyes I see your smile.

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When i listen to music i automatically pick out each individual instrument just the way you taught me.

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When i dance i recall how cool it was as a little girl to be waltzing around the room while standing on your feet.

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mini me, ME)๐Ÿ’•

When i am near someone smoking a Tiparillo -i inhale and it reminds me of your occasional after-dinner cigar.

Each day i feel your gentle nature all around me.

Thank you dad for being you…๐Ÿ’•

That’s just My Dad! โค๏ธ๐ŸŽถ๐ŸŽต๐ŸŽถ๐ŸŽบ๐ŸŽบ

Kind Regards and

Smiling with memories -K

Retrospective